tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19932251774378176072024-03-13T13:22:41.098-07:00rudy@swanseaI started this blog when I was finishing my PhD.. it was a stressful but wonderful time of my life. I just wrote whatever was on my mind and until now, I continue to write as I find it very fulfilling - as if someone is listening to my inner thoughts. You are welcome to comment... I might be wrong in my opinions but we have to appreciate the fact that people are different in many ways... if I cannot change a thing, I wish to leave footprints!Unknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger75125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1993225177437817607.post-37418425924144665062014-01-21T05:54:00.001-08:002014-08-05T20:01:14.276-07:00A thousand splendid sunsI bought this book online.. first purchase online since I am back in Malaysia. When I was in UK, I always buy books online - may be because it's cheaper online. Well, I also bought books from carboot sales which is "crazy cheap", an expression they like to use in Malaysia. It's one of those books you cannot put down once you start to read. Khaled Housseini never disappoints you... his writing is superb. When you read, you can imagine and sometimes, you can smell things.. the aroma of the surroundings. Have you read it? If not.. I don't want to spoil your excitement.. but still, I want to say something about it.<br />
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It started with the life of Mariam - a special person whose life started as a lonely little girl and was controlled by her mother. Despite being secluded from the real world, she is hopeful that one day, she would be able to reach out to the world. Having a mother who is so negative about everything, it is hard for her to move forward but the brave action that she took one day changes everything in her life. When you read about Mariam, you can feel the loneliness and the innocent hope she had on the person who was so important in her life - the person she looked up and always looking forward to meet.. her father whom she thought had betrayed her. It was sad.. not only sad, but heart wrenching. How she had to take the hand of an older man who used her, battered her and took everything away from her - that is her self pride. She felt like dirt.. like she is worthless but then, when someone came into her life in the most unpredictable way, she started to understand the meaning of life and her self worthiness. Most importantly, she feels loved and be loved.<br />
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But all the loves come with a price... a very high price indeed that many may not be able to pay. She sacrificed everything for her love. As a harami, she wants her life to mean something..<br />
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Towards the ending, my heart sinks... I can't help but imagine the feelings of all the characters involved especially Laila... the girl whom Mariam hated at first and ended loving her with all her heart. What about Aziza, the lovely girl who was with Mariam since she was small. The feelings that you have for these characters are really strong and make you feel amazed of how the author brilliantly developed the relationship gradually as you turn the page, one by one. FANTASTIC!!<br />
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For a few days now, I searched for the book again... miss-placed. Don't know at which shelf of my here-and-there library I have left it and now, I can't find it. I went to the bookstore this time but they don't have it. I have to wait for their new order. For good books, I don't mind repurchasing. It's an ownership worth spending and I will wait.Unknownnoreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1993225177437817607.post-80431160790176466662012-06-07T09:01:00.000-07:002012-06-10T08:13:56.563-07:00Asceticism @ ZuhudSometimes when you plan for something, Allah would plan something better. That's what happened to me last week.<br />
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It was the starting of school holiday and so, I went to Kuala Terengganu (KT). A marvellous holiday, I should say. It is good to have a small break once a while. I always enjoy working away... doesn't mean I don't love staying home but I love staying away from my OFFICE. It's like the whale - going surface to breathe once a while. Yes, it feels like having a full tank again.<br />
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Let me be frank - It wasn't totally holiday coz I attended a seminar for 2 days. One of the speakers is a millionaire who had set up many companies - Great!! I wish I have also. The only company I have are my circle of friends - also GREAT! I figure it must be difficult to control yourself if you have great wealth. That is why Allah did not give wealth to just about anyone but only to certain people. We should be happy with what we have as Allah knows best how much we need and give accordingly - in due measures!<br />
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Wealth is good! But let's look at my title for tazkirah tomorrow. It is about ascetic@zuhud. I'll be delivering Dr. Zaharuddin's talk which I heard the night before we drove home. We were so fortunate to have the opportunity to meet him - I mean, watch him from a distance. The mosque was not so crowded and comfortable. His talk was about Muamalat.. wheeling and dealing in Islam. It's about Riba/Interest. All these comes from our greed of the wordly affairs. If we practise ascetic@Zuhud, we won't be dealing with Riba'. That's why my tazkirah title will be on asceticism. I again was reminded by a saying by Saidina Ali r.a. about asceticism @ zuhud - It is not about not owning anything but it's about not being owned by anything.<br />
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Dr Zaharuddin also mentioned of a hadith about knowing your priorities.<span class="Apple-style-span" style="-webkit-border-horizontal-spacing: 2px; -webkit-border-vertical-spacing: 2px; font-family: Garamond;">... <i>Muhammad ibn Ya'qub (al-Kulayni) from Muhammad ibn Yahya, from Ahmad ibn Muhammad, from Ibn Mahbub, from `Abd Allah ibn Sinan and `Abd al-Aziz al-Abdi from `Abd Allah ibn Abi Ya`fur, who report Abu Abd Allah (al-Imam al-Sadiq) (A) to have said: "One who passes his evenings and mornings in such a way that the world be his biggest concern, God ordains poverty between his two eyes and causes his affairs to become disjointed and dissipated, while he does not attain anything except what has been apportioned for him. And as for one who passes his evenings and mornings while his biggest concern and goal be the Hereafter, God puts contentment to his heart and gives a wholeness and unity to his affairs.</i></span><span class="Apple-style-span" style="-webkit-border-horizontal-spacing: 2px; -webkit-border-vertical-spacing: 2px; font-family: Garamond;"> </span><span class="Apple-style-span" style="-webkit-border-horizontal-spacing: 2px; -webkit-border-vertical-spacing: 2px; font-family: Garamond;"><a href="http://www.al-islam.org/fortyhadith/6.htm#r1" name="n1">[1]</a></span><br />
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<a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjWjzrlVY7Z0QVDp0KfhXBEDMLbxvahN8rjogyBKLrmOdmXG8Nu0p7_Ew5qaNT1eA4tooj5LSTIzFAn-vmIfg7Ma_JrV_jbA3oA2wsw5d10Q0lKzMte8mCKoU2ovqulvfVBFa1sCfS2VZ4/s1600/1579923_1266752670Z3Xx.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: right; float: right; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-left: 1em;"><img border="0" height="270" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjWjzrlVY7Z0QVDp0KfhXBEDMLbxvahN8rjogyBKLrmOdmXG8Nu0p7_Ew5qaNT1eA4tooj5LSTIzFAn-vmIfg7Ma_JrV_jbA3oA2wsw5d10Q0lKzMte8mCKoU2ovqulvfVBFa1sCfS2VZ4/s320/1579923_1266752670Z3Xx.jpg" width="320" /></a>We spent a few days at KT. However, before driving home, we stopped AGAIN at the famous market of Kuala Terengganu - Pasar Payang. I believe the batik art is getting more attractive these days - they are really improving especially those which are hand drawn. If you plan to buy the batik, it will be so difficult to choose - they all look equally attractive. I am sure you'll end up buying more than you planned for. I remember when I get out of the car, I had more than enough money to buy what I have already planned. However, I end up going back to the car to get more. Oh.. it''s so difficult to control yourself. I hope Allah understands and forgive me. I really do hope so :) As I walked to the car, I was asking myself if I am doing the right thing... I started making a lot of excuses for myself. I had a list of them and I believe they were all valid. However, I don't think I am practising zuhud... or else, I won't be going back there for more. Ah.. I really love the batik, especially the cotton ones. Can we love batik and be zuhud at the same time?? Yes, I think we can. Like having a mercedes, park the car outside.. just don't park it in your heart :)<br />
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Dr. Zaharuddin's story about Abu Darda' really had touched me. Being zuhud, he was willing to let go of his acres of dates farm to exchange it with a date tree in the Jannah. However, he was rewarded with more than he expected - acres of farm with hundreds of dates tree and a palace in Jannah. And Allah's promise is true- for those who believe!<br />
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How about us? Can we do the same? Believing the promises of Allah and letting go of our greed. Can we control our worldly intentions - leaving those that will not benefit us in the hereafter? Can we live unselfishly - thinking more of others than our own selves? What if your husband come home and tell you that he has exchange the beautiful house you live in with a house in paradise? What would you say? Would you scold him or say to him like what Abu Darda's wife had told him "(This is the best transaction that you had ever made!")? Would you do the same?<br />
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Ah.. Allah is great! He is teaching me all the time - not letting me go for even a bit - While busy thinking about shopping like most women, He sends me a knowledgable person to test if I am really listening and reading the signs. It's my holiday - the least time to expect for a great Islamic talk. O Allah, I am so grateful!<br />
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In the Quran, Allah said: <i>"They were plotting and Allah too was planning, and Allah is the Best of the planners"[8: 30]</i></div>
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AM I AN IMPORT OR EXPORT PERSON?<br />
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<a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEi-TvSTZocE0gnv6M-WaNGWLDm4POGO4mthQfqmzw87QifEyEkPty_yzcIHqYCRwVE60o0nkeaDQc7LE5PnSGkF1PBu4PcTGl462yyxAKuqiFFPHt4NzvEkiFooYroyf7P164ukBAmxGCc/s1600/Unknown.jpeg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEi-TvSTZocE0gnv6M-WaNGWLDm4POGO4mthQfqmzw87QifEyEkPty_yzcIHqYCRwVE60o0nkeaDQc7LE5PnSGkF1PBu4PcTGl462yyxAKuqiFFPHt4NzvEkiFooYroyf7P164ukBAmxGCc/s1600/Unknown.jpeg" /></a>Does it matter? The answer is YES. This is not about what others think of you BUT what you think of yourself. What we think of ourselves are most important because it is how you value your own self and this will determine how or not you are happy. Happiness usually relates to how you work towards the the meaning of your existence. In life, we have 2 vertices that needs attention. They are the:<br />
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a. VERTICAL - relationship with your creator<br />
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b. HORIZONTAL -relationship with other people - which includes your parents, your family, your children, workplace, students, neighbors, community..<br />
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The first is not so obvious. Some people can look like they are so much related to God but actually they are not. In extreme cases, you see that they are very kind hearted people who really understands the meaning of sincerity but in true sense, they don't believe in God. In my personal opinion, if you are not good vertically, you beat the purpose of existence. You have not reach the level of wisdom of your existence. To understand and really focus on this vertical relation takes you to travel deep into your soul. It doesn't only takes you down the path to your spiritual self, but also helps you to put more actions that can strengthen your spiritual being. That once your spiritual being is strengthen, all the pictures in life will be connected and bring meanings to you. The actions are your evidence of believe and trust. When this happen, all these actions come naturally to you and you enjoy doing them. For muslims, this is translated into doing more supplementary prayers and good deeds other than the obligatory ones. For companions of the prophet Muhammad pbuh, when they are doing their prayers, they reached the highest level of tranquility where they are no more connected to the world around them. In fact, many of them do not feel pain as pain is physical but they are at the time, spiritual. Hmmm... a bit philosophical here!<br />
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We move on the the second - human to human relationship. When we talk about human to human, we become exporters or importers. If we export a lot, we become rich persons and if we are importers all the time, we become very dependent on others. Importers would need others to put things into their store and would feel sad or demotivated if that doesn't happen.<br />
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Some people are natural at human to human skill. May be they are brought up that way or they pick up the skill through time. Don't take this for granted because for some people, they don't have this skill and need people to teach them. If you are importers and married to exporters, then you may have been saved. But some people can never change. They become importers all through their lives! On the other hand, some people doesn't need formal education to become exporters. They are real exporters!<br />
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Oh.. have I not define the meaning of exporters or importers? If you find someone who busy herself or himself to give - they are exporters! Importers on the other hand would find ways to get things from others. They are calculative people who always have the plus and minus signs in their head. They would give after calculating that they get more in return. May be we sometimes do this.. shame on us!<br />
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Some people were taught to give during their childhood and carry this all through their lives. Wise are those parents who teach their children charity. My late mother-in-law was an export person. After her death, I met many of her friends who told me so many stories of her generosity. She was not highly educated but her social intelligence beats many of the professors. One time she went to town with food in her hand. On the way home, she saw a few people working under the hot sun doing construction work. She stopped and gave them the food. That was natural to her. How many of us has done this? When she passed away, so many people from all races came to pay tribute She was not a senator, not even had any post in the community, but she beats them all. She is a natural social worker who was willing to give to others what she had or hadn't. I said this because she was even willing to borrow money to give others.<br />
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There are many things one can do to become exporters. You can do it through giving lots of presents to friends/relatives, constant charity and becoming more alert with other people's needs. Some people buy lots of things and give them to guests at home. Birthdays, Mothers Days, Teachers Day, Anniversary... these are occasions if you need reasons to give small or big presents if you ran out of them. It makes the hearts grow fonder. Other than presents, we need to share ideas and knowledge. Imagine how much teachers can contribute to the betterment of mankind by teaching with sincere hearts. That is why a friend who is a lecturer would prefer his children to become teachers or other professions. He wants the children to continue his legacy... and he is a great teacher. I always see him spending long hours teaching his students although in university, there is no concept of 'tuition' but he does it anyway without any extra pay. May Allah reward him abundantly with His kindness.<br />
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So if you are really an exporter, what others think of you is just secondary. The most important is your sincerity. Even writing your own blog.. trying to disseminate knowledge or little things you think worth sharing. Don't do it because you want people to think how great a writer you are but because you want to export with sincerity. When something is done with your heart, it strikes other people's heart too. And sincerity is not anybody's business.. it is between you and your Lord.<br />
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So next time, when you say tell a truth to a friend, or give an unpopular opinion for the sake of your organization... don't let anything hold you back because what they think is no more important. Tell them you know what you are doing!Unknownnoreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1993225177437817607.post-14128701140285670282011-10-08T05:41:00.000-07:002011-10-08T21:26:59.965-07:00Your weaknesses... Do you know?<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgEUFVHFb0ZSk2HENZhsPfhQxfeQqrguGYs1CCw4Wgviq_lKYqnXNlpWCFE4mFXW4lmQIj5T1hJsdOoEzXhqy5aW5_C_Ucfkhi_hx21uyDIPY_zT8art_GRckuTRV7vIZrAH-yV3sTVgnQ/s1600/imagesweak.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: right; float: right; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-left: 1em;"><img border="0" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgEUFVHFb0ZSk2HENZhsPfhQxfeQqrguGYs1CCw4Wgviq_lKYqnXNlpWCFE4mFXW4lmQIj5T1hJsdOoEzXhqy5aW5_C_Ucfkhi_hx21uyDIPY_zT8art_GRckuTRV7vIZrAH-yV3sTVgnQ/s1600/imagesweak.jpg" /></a></div><br />
There was a lecture on the radio this morning, talking about self esteem. There are too many good points that I thought it is good to share. Dr. Muhaya said, knowledge is like fish. They are slippery in nature. You can catch them with your hands but after a short while, it will slip off. Therefore, when you know anything, you can only retain it for a while and in order to hold it for a longer period, distribute the knowledge (facebook is one good medium) and the knowledge will travel far, benefiting many people around you. Among what was presented on the radio was how to know your weaknesses. Of course, we love to talk about our strength especially when someone praise you for it. However, strength and weaknesses comes in pair as no one is born perfect, we need to know them in order to overcome them. According to Imam Al-ghazali, a great muslim scholar, to know your weaknesses, you need to ask from 3 groups of people:<br />
(1) your teacher: they will sincerely tell you what you are weak at. Teachers are noble people - they always want their students to improve. Teachers might know more about you than mother do and that is why mothers need to be close to their children's teachers.<br />
(2) your friend: you can ask your friends your weaknesses. Good friends are usually sincere too... but sometimes, they feel uneasy to tell you the truth. So, that is why you need to ask the third group of people...<br />
(3) your enemy: ask your enemy why they hate you so much and you will get lots of secrets like.. .they hate you because you are stingy, they hate you because you are bossy... A scholar once said, when your enemies tell you your weaknesses, tell them that you will repent for your bad conduct if they are right, and hope for Allah's forgiveness. However, if they are wrong about it, you make prayer that they are forgiven for their mistakes.<br />
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Weakness, if you know them can be your strength. The sad thing is that most of the time, we you don't know our weaknesses. That is why when someone comments on you or your actions, take the comments with positive attitude. They might meant well or even when they do not meant well, you can benefit from them. People around us are mirrors.. they tell you who you are, what you look like and from their reactions, we can learn more about yourself.<br />
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There was this person who moves to a new village. He asked a villager the condition of the village. That man asked him back, "How was your previous village?". He said it was not good. So this man said, this village is the same - not good. Another person then came to him and ask the same question. He asked again, "How was your old village". He said, "My village was very good.. he started to tell him all the good things about his old town". The villager said, "Then, this village is very good too". The person who asked in the first place was astonished to the different answers given to the same question. He exclaimed, "How come you said differently to me?". That villager said, "You are what you think of it". When you look at things positively, most of the time, things will be good for you and vice versa.<br />
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Can we have a positive attitude on our weaknesses as we do our strength. If we are not good in Math, perhaps we can collaborate with someone who's good in Math and make a strong team. There is always a way out in most problems that we face everyday. The real problem lies on not knowing the source of the problem. If you have fire, direct the Fire Extinguisher to the source of fire not directly to the blazing fire! Find what the real problem is and perhaps you can overcome your problem or whatever you are facing. Life is a puzzle.. with levels of difficulties for those who are ready for different levels of challenges. Whatever your weaknesses are, the real challenge is how you are able to transform them into your strengths... for that is where the wisdom lies. And most of the time, there's no one to teach you the exact solution but only your knowledge and experiences as guidance.<br />
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Therefore, ask yourself.. are you ready to know your weaknesses and work on them? If the answer is yes, you are one step ahead than most people. Then, I wish you, ALL THE BEST!<br />
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From the holy Quran,<br />
<span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #333333; font-family: georgia, 'times new roman', times, serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 20px;">"</span><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #333333; font-family: georgia, 'times new roman', times, serif; line-height: 20px;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: medium;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: 14px;">Allah has made those who strive, with their property and their lives, to excel by a high degree those who hold back." (4:95)</span></span></span><br />
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Let's look at one of the great leader of our time... Hassan Al-Banna. We had at our university this week, a book fair and I came across this book "LOVE AT HASSAN AL BANNA'S HOME". This book is not new but I have not read it. This is one of the greatest man in recent history - who's photo we still can find on the internet. Someone who had done the work of dakwah and died as a martyr. With love for this man for the sake of Allah, I took the book home and read. He was an amazing man. He lived his life based on the prophet's life.. his children were the witness to that. They spoke so highly of him and in fact, they love him so much that whatever they said of their father, you can feel their love for him. In one statement, one of his children said, "Even if you have 2 hours of his time, it was enough because that 2 hours with him were already satisfying. While I was reading the book, my mind lingers within his household.. thinking what would be like to be in such environment - having children who had nothing to complain. It was almost impossible to think how it is possible. His children admitted that the childhood and parenting skill of Hassan Al Banna was so perfect that they even think they can't be as good as their father.<br />
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These are the things that he did:<br />
- It started with choosing a good wife as mother to the children - he was very selective. She was a great person too - thought highly of her husband and never complains. They used most of their furniture for her husband's head office - curtains, sofa, tables and chairs - you name it. She supported his every action as she understood what he fought for. They lived modestly and they were contented with what they had.<br />
- Making sure that he had time to eat together with his family everyday. When he had guests at home, he would invite them to eat with the family so that he wouldn't miss the meal time together.<br />
- Attended to all his 6 children without failing: the children never feel neglected, even they were amazed how he accommodated them into his busy schedule <br />
- Sent food to school almost everyday to make sure they had good food to eat at school.<br />
- Advice the children without scolding them.<br />
- Never raise his voice. He was very diplomatic with his children. When he doesn't like anything, he would suggest something better to the children. The children would consider due to respect and not fear of him<br />
- Always make sure the children had extra money to buy books. In fact, the children were given more than enough and they spent their money to buy books and they each have their own library.<br />
- A romantic husband to his wife<br />
- Assist his wife with budgeting and making sure that what they needed at home were ordered as planned - he was very precise and systematic<br />
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This book is good as presents to all husbands or at weddings for new husbands. It helps them see their role in the house as a father and as a husband. With Quran as the base of all education, you can't be wrong in bringing up your children. Giving children sound foundation of Islam helps them be better muslims and better husbands too. Current research revealed that, MAN are becoming SOFT and WOMAN are becoming FIERCE. This is due to our new preservatives and additives we have in our food. Is this true? Or have we not use Quran and the examples of the prophet to live our lives? This great man was raised by his father with Quran, Hadith, Fiqh, Seerah etc. He was taught by his father the knowledge of Islam. They had good education at home which most of us can't give to our children but hope that the school can do it on our behalf.<br />
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So, when you read this book or any other of its kind, at least it gives you new insights on different aspects of life. Try follow some of the things Hassan Al Banna did, perhaps, things would be better at home. Or may be if you give this book to your husband, perhaps, he can see how he can at least try to improve his leadership or parenting skill to make things better for the children. Or may be, read to your sons and make them realize that they can be great person in their own way too if they follow the teaching of Islam. Isn't it great to have great people around us. But sadly, great people might not be around.. so we have to seek them through readings and perhaps, through these examples, new great people will emerge around us.. in our own community, in our own household, .... and hopefully, you can also feel this kind of greatness and love in your home too. OR HAVE YOU??Unknownnoreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1993225177437817607.post-26828447076679640942011-07-31T00:02:00.000-07:002011-08-24T08:15:36.385-07:00Two kind heartsI met them in Leicester on my way to Leeds but since we stopped over at Clydach, I got carried away with shopping at the wednesday car boot sale there and arrived later than expected. It was't clear to me that my daughter had arranged for an earlier meeting. Anyway, we reached their house without difficulty with the guide of the UK map (thank you 7-11) as our Tom Tom was in Leeds.<br />
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When we parked the car, I saw a british man with white beard came out to greet us with a smiling and welcoming face. His name is brother Daud R. Mathew or previously known as David. I had high expectation of them as my daughter talked so much of them and their dakwah work - they are very much committed. We entered the house... a very lively and comfortable house, I should say. Across the room, I was greeted by a pakistani lady sitting on a sofa - smiling and eager for our hugs. She was not well for some days before - my daughter told me the last time she saw her, she was not that thin. She told me she had lost a lot of weight but alhamdulillah, recovering. She moves around in wheel chair - for many years now.<br />
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Brother Daud was attracted to Islam the first time when he saw her doing her solat at a corner of a room. She gave him a book of Islam so that he can understand more of the religion. How he embraced Islam can be read from his article "A Sleepless Night", published by the Brunei Times. He took shahadah in 1973, 18 months after doing solat and fasting. He thought he had not known much. They also told us how the family in Pakistan eventually accepted him and they got married in Pakistan. The things that they told us was really fascinating. They worked in Saudi Arabia for several years before they reside in the UK and have been doing the dakwah work ever since. Both of them are actively involve in giving talks about Islam and dakwah especially during the Islamic Awareness week, one of many programs organized by FOSIS (Federation of Student Islamic Societies) in the UK.<br />
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They invited us to stay for the night but since we had to drive to Leeds for my daughter's graduation, we had to turn down the offer but indeed, I was tempted. I told them that they have to write a book on their autobiography as I know for sure, they can really inspire many other muslims to do dakwah too, insya'Allah. Some of us are not doing it at all. May Allah forgive us for our negligence.<br />
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Time flew so fast when you are having a good time. Before we knew it, it's already time to hit the road again. Before we left, brother Daud gave us his book (newly published) as a souvenir and signed it. It says.....<br />
<div style="text-align: right;">"<i>A small gift to help you remember our first meeting - the beginning of a long and lasting friendship</i>" <i><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', serif;"><span class="Apple-style-span"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="background-color: transparent;">Daud and Anis</span></span></span></i></div><div style="text-align: right;"><i><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', serif;"><span class="Apple-style-span"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="background-color: transparent;">July 2011</span></span></span></i></div>Again they invited me to stay for a month with them so that I can help them write the book I suggested. What a good offer! I would really love to do that but with my work here, I don't know if it is possible. As I left the house, I thank Allah for sending me 2 new friends with kind hearts into my life. May this friendship help us to grow closer to Him, The Al-Mighty. I remember a hadith that said...<br />
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</div><div class="MsoNormal"></div><div class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-family: 'Times New Roman Italic';"><i>I solemnly pledge myself to consecrate my life to the service of humanity,<o:p></o:p></i></span></div><div class="MsoNormal"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: 'Times New Roman Italic';"><i>I will give to my teachers the respect and gratitude which is their due;</i></span></div><div class="MsoNormal"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: 'Times New Roman Italic';"><i>I will practice my profession with conscience and dignity;</i></span></div><div class="MsoNormal"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: 'Times New Roman Italic';"><i>The health of my patient will be my first consideration;</i></span></div><div class="MsoNormal"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEg4XtWpURmZLshxggFXpsI35lStChsR2vOsFU4BmjScONImtLH4FIXL4Dh_-rHT5B4U3FpP6k8goy0ACbGv40EUiFDzgpScMhPbhUUHJdexDuUuXmHAEaO5GK4t5KFL6lVJUI9yO8yReZA/s1600/imagesDoc2.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: right; float: right; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-left: 1em;"><img border="0" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEg4XtWpURmZLshxggFXpsI35lStChsR2vOsFU4BmjScONImtLH4FIXL4Dh_-rHT5B4U3FpP6k8goy0ACbGv40EUiFDzgpScMhPbhUUHJdexDuUuXmHAEaO5GK4t5KFL6lVJUI9yO8yReZA/s1600/imagesDoc2.jpg" /></a><span style="font-family: 'Times New Roman Italic';"><i>I will respect the secrets which are confided in me, even after the patient has died;<o:p></o:p></i></span></div><div class="MsoNormal"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: 'Times New Roman Italic';"><i>I will maintain by all the means in my power the honour</i></span></div><div class="MsoNormal"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: 'Times New Roman Italic';"><i>And the noble traditions of the medical profession;</i></span></div><div class="MsoNormal"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: 'Times New Roman Italic';"><i>My colleagues will be my sisters and brothers;</i></span></div><div class="MsoNormal"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: 'Times New Roman Italic';"><i>I will not permit considerations of age, disease</i></span></div><div class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-family: 'Times New Roman Italic';"><i>or disability, creed, ethnic origin, gender, nationality, or social standing to intervene between my duty and my patient;<o:p></o:p></i></span></div><div class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-family: 'Times New Roman Italic';"><i>I will maintain the utmost respect for human life from i</i></span><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: 'Times New Roman Italic';"><i>ts beginning </i></span></div><div class="MsoNormal"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: 'Times New Roman Italic';"><i>even under threat and I will not use my medical knowledge contrary to the laws of humanity;</i></span></div><div class="MsoNormal"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: 'Times New Roman Italic';"><i>I make these promises solemnly, freely and upon my honour.</i></span></div><div class="MsoNormal"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNormal"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: 'Times New Roman Italic';">That was the oath written beautifully for these young graduates. They read and we listened quietly with contentment as they made their oath. I hope they meant what they had just recited. We need sincere and caring doctors for our future. They will be one of the most important group of professionals in the society and I am happy my daughter was among them. </span><br />
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<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: 'Times New Roman Italic';">I am grateful for the success Allah has rewarded us and right now, I just want to sincerely thank Allah. My heart was full of emotions and my tears were rolling down......</span></div><div class="MsoNormal"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: 'Times New Roman Italic';"><br />
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<div class="MsoNormal">When Alice in Wonderland reached a cross road, she asked the wise owl, “Which way should I take?”. The wise owl asked Alice, “Where do you wanna go, Alice?”. Alice said, “I don’t know”. Then the wise owl replied, “If you don’t know where you’re going, you can take any path you want”.</div><div class="MsoNormal"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNormal"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhCuoN_fQfhOhW7c07GpBlqe94N5PQzWqBneO7XZla0-EQnInnKOC4kTjoixSyuCUpNT7dQnFVhDGVA4GIMepk-cM8PIcODzIesz840eRJXyUvn_FGYZgtW7E4NolxRMDmMYMcINQrkpYU/s1600/images+Road.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: right; float: right; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-left: 1em;"><img border="0" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhCuoN_fQfhOhW7c07GpBlqe94N5PQzWqBneO7XZla0-EQnInnKOC4kTjoixSyuCUpNT7dQnFVhDGVA4GIMepk-cM8PIcODzIesz840eRJXyUvn_FGYZgtW7E4NolxRMDmMYMcINQrkpYU/s1600/images+Road.jpg" /></a>In life, we often reach crossroads where we don’t know which road to take. Life comes with many uncertainties and this is where the beauty lies. If everything goes as planned and all happenings in life are predictable, I bet many of us would just die of boredom. </div><div class="MsoNormal"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNormal">It was still vivid in my mind when I came to a point in my life when I just don’t know what to do and which path should I take. Being parents, we always want to do everything within our might for our children. But this one time is a bit too far beyond my reach. The dilemma was, should I send my daughter to Medical School? The issue was not only about medical school but sending a child to medical school without any sponsorship means substantial financial implication that we wouldn’t be able to bear. This happened 5 years ago and tonight, everything was so crystal clear.</div><div class="MsoNormal"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNormal">One evening I heard from Sheikh Abdullah Yaseen in our class that reading the holy Quran is the solution to any muslim’s problem. Be it a mathematical problem, financial problem or anything at all. All you need is to have trust in Allah who has the knowledge of what is best for everyone. I prayed to Allah to send me a sign – a way out, to give an instinct in my heart on what to do next at this crossroad – like what a mother should have.</div><div class="MsoNormal"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNormal">A few days back, we went to Leeds – to look for an opportunity for a scholarship from any organization at all. My daughter had a bag packed with her clothes, all ready for her registration at Leed University Medical School. It was a mixed feelings when we went because I know that there was a high possibility of not getting what we hoped for – a scholarship. Before even register, we met several university officers and talked about the possibility of getting any scholarship but to no avail. She had an offer letter in her hands but without any financial support, it seemed impossible. Five years of medical school in the UK is the cost of a huge bungalow in Kuala Lumpur, which I could not afford. I don’t want living my life paying debts. After making sure that there was no way to get any means for financial support, we had to leave Leeds. It was heart wrenching to see my daughter carrying her bag back onto the car and off we went back to Swansea. </div><div class="MsoNormal"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNormal">That morning in Swansea, I read the holy Quran before going to my research lab - hoping that Allah will show me what is best. I always look at what happened as a sign from the Lord. I once was asked by an AFS son from Germany what makes me think of all the happenings as signs and what if they are not. I told him that everything that happens around us is never a coincidence. They all happen for some good reasons. How can we say the Big Bang was a coincidence? The movement of the planets around the sun – they are all precise calculations of the Creator. So how can everything else around them be regarded as coincidence – They are nothing but precise calculations too. With this understanding, I learnt to put meanings into everything that happened in my life. With this trust in the precise calculations of my Creator, I learnt to trust Him. I had this trust all along and this is how I gained my strength in life.</div><div class="MsoNormal"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNormal">After reading the Quran, I went to my research lab and opened my email as my daily routine. There it was – a mail from a very good friend in Malaysia. He knew my dilemma. He told me to send my daughter to medical school without thinking twice. He said, when it comes to his children, any sacrifices are all worth it. I knew my daughter might get her scholarship in later years, but I was scared that we would be turned down. One can never tell the future and the risk was too high. With this encouragement, I suddenly realize that perhaps, that was the answer to my uncertainty. We had a discussion and after a few days, we were back in Leeds, registering her for Medical School. We gather what we had to pay for the fees and indeed, we had enough, Alhamdulillah. We had enough for the first year of Med School fee. We dare not think of her second year or the next few years’s. But at that time, I only want to take one step at a time. We received many words of encouragement from friends and we were so happy and proud to be able to send her to Med School. </div><div class="MsoNormal"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNormal">The second year, we appealed for scholarship and the Malaysian government agreed to pay for her fees. It was good enough for us. With our own PhD scholarship and some working hours, we send her monthly allowance and I believe she was able to live comfortably. The third year, we appealed again for full scholarship and we even sent a letter to the Prime Minister. My mom in Malaysia was amazed to receive a reply from the Prime Minister’s office. We wrote several letters to many others too. That year, she received a full scholarship. We were on cloud nine… I can’t begin to express my happiness when I heard after the scholarship meeting that our application pulled through. May Allah reward them for their kindness in accepting our application.</div><div class="MsoNormal"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNormal">We were so relieved at that time. Our daughter was able to study without any worries after that. It was indeed a long ordeal but Alhamdulillah, we were so grateful with all the hurdles that we had to jumped in order to get to the finishing line.</div><div class="MsoNormal"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNormal">Tonight, she was on the other side of the world and we were on Yahoo messenger. We waited for her final year exam result. It was announced online. The moment she told us that she passed, we were indeed very grateful. The feeling was indescribable. Everything that we had gone through in order to put her to medical school came rushing back to my head. Indeed it is a great feeling of success. I put my head on the ground in prostration, thanking Allah for everything.</div><div class="MsoNormal"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNormal">That crossroad took us to a good spot now. There is still a long and winding road ahead for this young doctor but we are grateful that the path to take is clearer now. It is up to her now to run or to walk. We had done our part. We make doa that the road that lies ahead is not so crooked and not too bumpy. May Allah help us to persevere and keep these children of ours to be strong and be able to share and assist those who are passing through that same long and winding road in whatever way they can. Indeed, life would be meaningful if you can benefit others around you. Being there at that crossroad made you realize that taking chances can lead to success if you are really determined, insya’Allah. If the road you take is long and winding, keep your heads high and set your goal clear… when you know where you want to go, half of the difficulties are taken care of. That long and winding road might be the best path of your life.</div><div class="MsoNormal"><br />
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</div><div class="MsoNormal"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Arial; font-size: medium;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: 14px;"><i>“And certainly, We shall test you with something of fear, hunger, loss of wealth, lives and fruits, but give glad tidings to the patient ones” (Quran 2:155)“.</i></span></span></div>Unknownnoreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1993225177437817607.post-70598587224510167222011-05-01T03:54:00.000-07:002011-05-01T04:36:47.321-07:00They changed their plans.....Life is a rolling wheel.. sometimes, you'll be on top and sometime you'll be at the bottom. What you do to others will come back to you... hmmm, most of the time! I guess everyone knows this. That is why when I told my son his misbehavior towards me, he said I must have done the same to my mom. Hmm.. Amir can be a tricky boy!<br />
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It is not easy to deal with children when they are already married... i think all moms would think the same. I wonder how my mom deals with this matter with all 9 of her children married... must be challenging.<br />
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This afternoon, I got a message from my daughter telling me that she'll be coming home. When your married daughter is coming home with your son-in-law, you have to make preparations like you are having any guests. Before when my daughters came home from their boarding schools, they'll do the tiding up themselves, they'll do all the house chores. Oh, what a bless!!! When they are home, I was like having maids in the house... ( when they were not sleeping, that is !!! )<br />
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So when I know my daughter is coming home today, I prepared their bed and make sure everything is in perfect order.. so they feel very much welcomed. I changed the carpet so that the room will look nicer and they'll be real happy to be home and to come home again next time. After wiping the floor and dusting, I looked at the room... wow, it looked really nice! When Amir came in, he told me off - he said, she can do it by herself. I told him that they'll be tired by the time they arrive and it is good that I prepared this so that they can rest peacefully when they arrive. What does he know!!!<br />
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I looked at the room, I had everything ready and I sat down at my favorite couch waiting for them - any sounds of a car approaching might be them.... Suddenly I saw a message on my mobile, it says... Sorry ma, we changed our plans!!! Is it ok? Hmm.. what can I say? Well, at least, I can rest and I have a nice room upstairs ready for guests!<br />
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I wonder all through my marriage life, my mom must have felt neglected. I remember how I was too busy with my husband, too busy with my family, too busy with my children. It is easy to hurt a mom's feelings. Unfortunately, you have to experience it to realize it... Life is about lessons... and I am glad Allah helps me see through these lessons of life. With that note, I thank Allah for all His lessons to make me an improved daughter to my mom. I need to materialize my love to her. I hope she knows I love her so much... And if I promised her anything, I hope I would never have to say, "Sorry Ma, I changed my plans!!!Unknownnoreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1993225177437817607.post-49850991512942123052011-02-04T14:54:00.000-08:002011-02-05T02:31:49.025-08:00Follow your passion... my almost published book!!Everyone has passion in life... and all my life, I have always love writing. I've not written much.. only some articles and they are not even published. I remember one time when my boss asked me to take over a book-writing project on a programming language - we published and since there were too many writers, I put my name as the editor. I don't mind not having a name on the book because I wanted to have a book on my own.<br />
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Wish I was 3 months earlier. That is a hard lesson to learn. I had my book almost ready about a year ago but due to my procrastination attitude... it stays there untouched. Last month, I pushed myself and it took me only around 2 weeks to finish writing it.. I submitted early this month! Now, I have to compete with the other book but the writer is a pro.... won't be able to beat him. So like they say - if you can't beat them, join them. What did I do? Yesterday, I wrote him an email, telling him about my book and also suggesting him that we should be working side by side. I have to learn from this pro too!!!<br />
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This is life.. Most of the time, you can never be the best. And at times, you can never beat the rest. But the sweet thing that you can also learn is how to create success by joining others - those who beat you. You don't have to be the best - you only have to try your best. Again, if you can't beat them... join them.<br />
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Now I am waiting for the editing proess. I can't wait to have it published .. And I have a long list of books to write. They are all in my head and perhaps, if I push myself to write them just like I have pushed this one, I would be able to have more books published in the near future. Many great Imam of Islam wrote many books in their lifetime. Wish I can leave many books behind.. at least, a book of my autobiography. Won't that be interesting?<br />
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Our life have become too complicated. People used to live simpler lives. They don't need insurance... no road tax to pay, no bill to settle, no courses to attend, no KPI (key performance index;-p ) to fulfill... and if we let our mind create excuses, I am sure the list will go on and on. If only we realize that life is short ... we won't be spending too much time on things like facebook, twitter... and so on. The great scholars used their time wisely.. reading and seeking knowledge by traveling and meeting scholars of their time before their themselves become scholars. I read about Imam Shafie - by the age of 15, he has already giving fatwa due to his vast knowledge of Islam.<br />
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I am no scholar... My book is about a software that is useful for graduate students. And perhaps, I will promote the software with that pro... helping him and assisting him in any way possible. In fact, he has promoted the software to his faculty to be used by graduates and under graduates. Me? I am going to conduct courses to our graduate students. I have conducted one for my research methodology class students. It was going quite well. I will promote to the undergraduates also. A friend at other university had also invited me to give training to their staff. Although I am not a pro, with a good backup, I am sure I would be able to excel, insya'Allah. This is the beauty of working in a team and having backups.<br />
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So now, I am considering of writing another book. Perhaps a travelog of my future trip to Beijing (end of February). I have the structure of the book in my head now... when you have passion, nothing should stop you. I've heard people wakes up early like 3am in the morning to write. Perhaps, I should be more passionate and continue writing....<br />
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Why do we see things differently? Why can't we all accept things as they are and not think too much until we can't see the obvious? This is the trick of the mind - People's mind is a complicated thing.. we don't know how people perceive things as it is all in the mind. There is a saying "<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;">A man is infinitely more complicated than his thoughts." and t<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Times; font-size: small;">o me, it is the mind that complicate things or men. We always have the choice to see things as is. But when one thinks too deep, that when troubles come. </span></span><br />
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<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Times, Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">Allah descent His book and prophet's teachings as our guidelines, as a reference to survive in the "Big Ocean". With our limited knowledge in religion, we are bound to commit sins. Let's not only use our own mind/mere logic to deal with any issue because we can be tricked. Seeking knowledge is the best to guide us to the truth and indeed, it is Allah who guides us but our job to seek knowledge. If Allah loves us, He will give us comprehension of the religion.</span><br />
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<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Times, Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">Therefore, when he admitted that he was wrong all along, it was not a victory to me as he was not really conceding to defeat. It was a brave confession. To me, I took it as a sheer relieve - at last, someone see my point! I can't help my mind (the complicated engine) from going into a swirl of questionings - what if I was also wrong? Can it be that I was the one who got tricked? What if there was some truth in his perception? What if he is also right as conditions change and flexibility is permitted in some situations. What if I was being too judgmental and rigid. How do I know that I am right? These questions keep coming to me, bombarding, one after another. Then I come into realization that we can't be too sure of anything in life. Allah ingrained in our hearts conscience to guide us through - in addition to the Quran and Hadith as our manual. With all those equipments, we will not only survive but victorious, as well. And if you are seeking truth all the time, Allah will help. </span><br />
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<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Helvetica;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: 12px;">I was recently told about the death of a newly graduated doctor who studied in Sheffield, UK. I read his blog which was written very well. I believe most of the medical students are well trained due to their assignments and number of case studies they had to cover - well, they are excellent students or else they won't get into medical schools. This brother, Mas Afzal had blood cancer and once diagnosed, he started writing his blog, sharing his experiences and moments with family and friends. There are many cancer patients linking themselves to his blog, sharing their strength and trust in God. In his last entry before he was terminally ill, he talked about his mom - how she had stayed by him during the hard times without complaining. Ya.. many people are fortunate to have mom's love - loving you without conditions. I read with tears in my eyes. magine the effort he had made to write at those difficult hours. Despite that young age, he is stronger than most .. always expressing his gratitude despite his condition.</span></span></span><br />
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<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Helvetica;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: 12px;">I remember in one of the inspiring speeches given by Dr. Tareq Suwaidan, he said there was a time when Umar r.a., the prophet's sahabah sent a group of men to support a battle against the Roman. In that battle, he told the leader that he was sending 40,000 men. When the leader counted the men sent, there was only 10,000. When Umar was asked where are the rest of the men, he said, among those men, there are 4 whom each represents 10,000 men. Imagine how one man can be as strong of 10,000 men? Dr. Tareq Suwaidan added, most men now don't even add up to 1. Funny eh? So what happened to us? Strength in this context doesn't only refer to physical state. During the time of the prophet and sahabah, strength would also mean the state of IMAN and TRUST in Allah. Therefore, when you add all that to their physical being, they become undefeatable. Even if they are defeated in a battlefield, they are considered martyrs - a dream of all believers. Win or lose, you will be victorious anyway!</span></span></span><br />
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<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Helvetica;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: 12px;">However, we don't fight in battlefields. We fight against many things in our lives. Some fight against their own desires whilst some had to fight against terminal diseases like Cancer (I used a capital C because he used to refer it as Big C). Brother Mas Afzal passed away at 26. He fought all through, knowing for sure that his way was surely not the primrose way, everything is determined by The Almighty and decreed by Him - good or bad. He said, "Allah surely has unique ways of showing His love, and I hope I will not lose my chance...". Such wise words... It is true that difficulties take people closer to Him. When we see people died at that young age, automatically our mind might think.. ahh, what a waste!!! There's so much to miss.... all the things that he could do like working, getting married, having children, building family, career and what not. But is that what life is all about?</span></span></span><br />
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<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Helvetica;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: 12px;">This is the true meaning of success - whether or not you escape from the torment of hellfire and be able to enter the gardens of delight... Allah's great heaven (Jannah). To enter Jannah, one needs a lot of perseverance, sacrifices, kindness to people and good relation with Allah. Are you establishing good relation with Allah? How about your relation with people? Do you love others enough? Do you love fellow muslims as we were told to? With SALAM, we spread love among muslims. Imam Muslim reported that our prophet p.b.u.h. said, </span></span></span><br />
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<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Helvetica;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: 12px;">This young doctor - although he passed away at a young age - might have more good deeds than many of us. He was actively involved in dakwah activities - enjoining the good and forbidding the evil. One of his last assignment was an invitation as a guest speaker for 2 days at a camp. Despite of his health condition and difficulties, he accepted the invitation. Imagine, he had to commute from his house that would take around 45 minutes and not only once but four times to be with the group at the camp. Amazing as it seems, at that young age, he might have collected better points than us... some of us live for ourselves. Let us ask ourselves if we had done anything for others lately? Have we benefited from the hours given to us? If only we think and reflect how precious these hours are especially to those who had been diagnosed with terminal illnesses. Think about it! Can we be more beneficial? Can we give without thinking whether or not we will be receiving anything back other than Allah's love? If we can do that, that's really good news and we must be doing ok.</span></span></span><br />
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<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Helvetica;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: 12px;">So when he passed away, comments came pouring into his websites - from family and friends, near and far- sharing news and their grieves. Everyone talked about how great he was as a friend, a student, a relative and most importantly, as a believer of faith. There was also a lady who talked about how she was helped by brother Afzal even when she was a stranger to him. With all these good words, I believe they become his witnesses of his good deeds. And these witnesses are what we needed most .. at the time when none can help but your own deeds. Allah says in the holy Quran (46:19), </span></span></span><br />
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<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Helvetica;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: 12px;"><i>"And for all are degrees according to what they did, and that He may pay them back fully their deeds and they shall not be wronged".</i></span></span></span><br />
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</span> </span></span></div><div class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-left: 0in; margin-right: 0in; margin-top: 0in; text-align: left;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="border-collapse: separate; color: black;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Helvetica;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: 12px;">Therefore, we are advised to use our time wisely for there are many who are diagnosed with terminal illnesses and would love to have more time to serve Him. To live our lives to the fullest is to serve Him well and loving Allah unconditionally more than the love of a mom to a son. When you look at the sky, how beautiful it is in the morning or during the sunset, take a deep breath and feel Allah's love. You can feel that it is overflowing in your heart. It is undescribable. Look at the shapes of the clouds and the landscape of the sky and just admire how beautiful it is. Do this in the car everyday you commute to work... look up there and feel the love of God, creeping into your blood. How much love can you feel? Can you not feel the abundance and overflowing love? Can you not feel the tremendous feeling that is just too intense? How does it feel like to be Muhammad p.b.u.h., His beloved, to have seen God in person. He must have felt so much more than us... , even greater than we could imagine.</span></span></span></span></div><div class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-left: 0in; margin-right: 0in; margin-top: 0in; text-align: left;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiAFEh20J599Pb9JGIZcjdcFyuwymlBWeCasTz7So8k9yovM0H81pj28KM_zeNUzvN0JiwRar4mMuksG2ofBq5YcjXtPj_ARulQ7v4bqyjpsJfoeZEL0Qf_XQHkSXjsxfjtBDxWXqe19r0/s1600/_original.jpeg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" height="213" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiAFEh20J599Pb9JGIZcjdcFyuwymlBWeCasTz7So8k9yovM0H81pj28KM_zeNUzvN0JiwRar4mMuksG2ofBq5YcjXtPj_ARulQ7v4bqyjpsJfoeZEL0Qf_XQHkSXjsxfjtBDxWXqe19r0/s320/_original.jpeg" width="320" /></a><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: black;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="border-collapse: separate;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Helvetica;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: 12px;"><br />
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Not many people can go through trials with a sane mind. For people of faith, we should be able to have a high degree of control of our feelings and actions. All through her pain, she was actually trying to hold on to her marriage.. making it works, believing in the tradition that she loves so much and the values that she adores. Yes, she was conservative. She believe in marriage and abide to the vows. Should we not?<br />
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TRUST in marriage is a big thing. To me, this lady is very strong and not many are as strong. At time of trials and tribulations, you needed faith or trust in Allah the most. Having to go through the ordeal and keeping a sane and focused mind makes her very special... you can say, ooh, I can do that too. But don't say that until you are tested. I believe it is not easy. Of course, like she said, the most hurt are the children. But that's life - you don't get bright colors and twinkling stars every day... and we just have to accept it as it comes. By the way, the book is entitled "Keeping true". And I don't think anyone can overcome these trials without having faith in God - Islam, Christian whatever your religion is.<br />
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I was reading "Don't be sad", a book written so beautifully and a MUST HAVE for every muslim household. If you are sad, read the book. The words are so nicely written. Yes... why do we have to be sad? The author says, put it in your mind TODAY IS THE LAST DAY OF YOUR LIFE so you'll make it worth your while. if today is your last, you won't be wasting it on feeling bad but you will make the most of everything that you have around you. If one goes wrong, the others are still ok. There are too many bounties to count and Allah is giving them to you without even you asking for them. So why then should you be sad? I don't know.. perhaps, you just have too much of self pity, that's why!<br />
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Don't you feel like when you are mad, you want to scream? Don't you feel like you want to overcome the whole problem now and then and carry on with your life? Do you feel like you want to settle things once and for all? Then how can some people keep themselves sane if the whole thing takes a long time or might even take most of your lifetime? I believe we should self train own mind. Tell the mind things that can make it focus - your priorities in life.. be it your children, your health, your business, your career - you name it. I am not only talking about marriage here... trials can be anything. Some people keep their sanity by keeping busy - good. Some eat a lot and get fat - not good. Some sleep the whole day - not so good.<br />
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So what is the best medicine? I don't have the answer to the question.. it all depends on your situation. But one thing for sure is to go back to Your Lord... because He welcomes you with open arms although you keep forgetting Him. And the best way to go back to Him is to seclude yourself... take sometime away from people...<br />
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People can harm you especially in your remembrance of Allah. With their praises, you can get carried away. With their charm, you might forget yourself. So isolation can be beneficial to be able to talk to Him sincerely. Some people love to get themselves known and so, they can collect as many friends. To them, making friends are appreciating love and that is good. Sometimes, too much love can spoil you. People of faith are selective in making friends... if you are not careful, they can drag you down.. unless you are an angel - untouchable. I've seen people making friends without thinking.. liking him or her in the virtual world without thinking of your values or principles. You want to do DAKWAH and at the end, you will become bankrupt of good deeds because you are sinning and get caught in chain of sins [When you make error and others follow]. Again.. you forgot your values!!!<br />
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Ibn Thymiyah said {in Don't be Sad},<br />
"At times, it is necessary for the worshiper to be isolated from others in order to pray, remember Allah, recite the Quran and evaluate himself and his deeds. Also, isolation allows one to supplicate, seek forgiveness, stay away from evil and so on". These can help you to keep sane.<br />
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So when Oprah asked her.. "What was your regret?" Without hesitation, she replied, "Not leaving sooner than I did - But that was because of my TRUST in my values and holding on to them ".Unknownnoreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1993225177437817607.post-22694613613708239322010-12-15T05:46:00.000-08:002010-12-23T04:46:05.059-08:00Thank you Allah for yesterday when I was young<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhfqZiCVvQr8gaqHFBKYl3MpfJkO0Z6MMbwOThsJ4FivBnyrCzf6gDOliCJq40sp-3pyRWxJgWIdVen2elGNTTXXKkQxeaBKg4I8L2bS9scOnFY7mt_YdebP8boxDxHoC9shYItQwlw0-8/s1600/images.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhfqZiCVvQr8gaqHFBKYl3MpfJkO0Z6MMbwOThsJ4FivBnyrCzf6gDOliCJq40sp-3pyRWxJgWIdVen2elGNTTXXKkQxeaBKg4I8L2bS9scOnFY7mt_YdebP8boxDxHoC9shYItQwlw0-8/s1600/images.jpg" /></a></div><br />
It is amazing when you look back and think of the years you have left behind, and of course, not knowing what is left. At times, you have to pinch yourself and look in the mirror to see how old you are [not much difference eh?] as you are always the same at heart. Of course, with some revelation in life, you improve in many ways due to the knowledge gained and confidence accumulated along the way. That should make you smile in realizing how incredible life has been. In this life, we are given a certain amount and we cannot have it all at once. God knows how easy we can deviate and be ungrateful to Him.<br />
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Saidina Ali said "if you were given the scroll of fate and see what was decreed in your life, you will not want to change a thing". Despite the pain memories, bad decision, wrong calculations and what not, they were all added to your store of values. These values made you and everyday you are living by these values.<br />
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Relationships, how good or bad - they are in the store too.. building your character as they influence you, one way or another. People change through time with all these values accumulating and changing, adapting to situations in life. How many times people change your mind about something? See how powerful interactions are? Your principles - they can remain the same or they can be improved... as you re-evaluates your values as knowledge and experience added to your store!! Hopefully, good values stays. This is the process of maturity... and as time goes by, people change. Relationships change. Faces change. Nothing endures but change.<br />
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Is it a sad thing to change? Not really. In most cases, changes can mean a good thing. Whatever experience you have in life - good or bad - they are generally good, ain't it? All those thousand dreams that you dreamed but never achieved, they help you inspired. All those foolish games you play, they help you learn a trick. The love games you play and got hurt, they teach you to be wiser. No matter what you do before, there is always lessons to learn. If there is anything that you regret, let it be... leave yesterday as today can be your last. Like Anne said, "Life is too short to hold grudges" but if things are too much to handle, take a walk or better still, a vacation! <br />
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So when I look back to the years when I was young..things were sweet. I remember myself being a naive girl, who were forced to be independent when I left the nest of my family flying far to the United States at a very young age. So when I hear this song... it really clings to the heart. How true!! How careless we can be when we were young..... <br />
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<i>"It seems the love I've known,<br />
has always been the most destructive kind.<br />
I guess that's why now,<br />
I feel so old before my time."<br />
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Yesterday, when I was young,<br />
The taste of life was sweet, as rain upon my tongue,<br />
I teased at life, as if it were a foolish game,<br />
The way the evening breeze may tease a candle flame<br />
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The thousand dreams I dreamed, the splendid things I planned,<br />
I always built, alas, on weak and shifting sand,<br />
I lived by night, and shunned the naked light of day,<br />
And only now, I see, how the years ran away<br />
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Yesterday, when I was young,<br />
So many happy songs were waiting to be sung,<br />
So many wild pleasures lay in store for me,<br />
And so much pain, my dazzled eyes refused to see<br />
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I ran so fast that time, and youth at last ran out,<br />
I never stopped to think, what life, was all about,<br />
And every conversation, I can now recall,<br />
Concerned itself with me, and nothing else at all<br />
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Yesterday, the moon was blue,<br />
And every crazy day, brought something new to do,<br />
I used my magic age, as if it were a wand,<br />
And never saw the worst, and the emptiness beyond<br />
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The game of love I played, with arrogance and pride,<br />
And every flame I lit, too quickly, quickly died,<br />
The friends I made, all seemed somehow to drift away,<br />
And only I am left, on stage to end the play<br />
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There are so many songs in me, that won't be sung,<br />
I feel the bitter taste, of tears upon my tongue,<br />
The time has come for me to pay,<br />
For yesterday, when I was young<br />
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There is some truth in the song.. I believe normal people go through similar process - making mistakes and mend them... So Allah take youth and give you wisdom - What a great exchange! Should we not be grateful??? So when I look into the mirror, I always say "THANK YOU ALLAH FOR YESTERDAY WHEN I WAS YOUNG".<br />
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Indeed, we have to be among the grateful ones.<br />
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<img alt="" src="file:///Users/rudyhashim/Library/Caches/TemporaryItems/moz-screenshot.png" />Unknownnoreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1993225177437817607.post-62608272566153578572010-12-08T21:11:00.000-08:002010-12-08T23:28:51.470-08:00A link to the past<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgEBA4URlI6OzbDjS58YD7LQNhVl2TQgOGrzS94PEl1KaifSjawmiLEgHvyG6oCrrHOAEV4dBkLt96UMrD0_pjUo6tUwKMhVpatAbFB1b-RF_lZj4BUoP3ABWv9vD_QQqJTra0fZAUYGMA/s1600/images.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgEBA4URlI6OzbDjS58YD7LQNhVl2TQgOGrzS94PEl1KaifSjawmiLEgHvyG6oCrrHOAEV4dBkLt96UMrD0_pjUo6tUwKMhVpatAbFB1b-RF_lZj4BUoP3ABWv9vD_QQqJTra0fZAUYGMA/s1600/images.jpg" /></a></div><br />
I did a lot of travelling lately. Sometimes, in a week, I had to go to KL twice - attending all sorts of seminar, courses and what not! Nowadays, traveling is easy nowadays due to the R & Rs along the PLUS highway. I remember those days when we travelled, mom had to pack some food so that we can stop to eat.. of course, we had to select somewhere nice (usually a bit off the road -a comfortable place to sit and eat together like a picnic.) Now, we don't have to pack food because there are many choices at the stop areas.<br />
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So last week, we were at one of the R&Rs when I saw an actor who was famous in my childhood. He used to act with P. Ramlee. Who does not know P. Ramlee? Even my son, Amir loves him. He don't usually watch Malay movies but he loves him anyway. We enjoyed watching some of the films especially "Seniman Bujang Lapok". Even watching the same movie 10 or more times, you will still laugh your heart out. Oh... what a talent this man was! However, he passed away at quite a young age, 43. I was in primary school and I can remember the blanket of sadness covering the whole nation when people heard the sad news. It was like we can never have anyone so talented anymore. How true... I don't think anyone have the same magical touch... that touches the hearts of young and old. And amazingly, most of his films are evergreen!<br />
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<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiarX01DiAjf3mIqXLEol8B_LBKOQR6v4ogQOYianz6-UjHKN52QkDdXSDnwaDOXD3BcBkBdDgvQf_26jJYHXPJDUceGqPm1kEwOhWlqNWUCxPNvTVqfKEd6l2lUUvVjh7Cp7tu8EbL7m8/s1600/bujang+lapok.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" height="320" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiarX01DiAjf3mIqXLEol8B_LBKOQR6v4ogQOYianz6-UjHKN52QkDdXSDnwaDOXD3BcBkBdDgvQf_26jJYHXPJDUceGqPm1kEwOhWlqNWUCxPNvTVqfKEd6l2lUUvVjh7Cp7tu8EbL7m8/s320/bujang+lapok.jpg" width="312" /></a></div>Back to my story... I saw one of the Bujang Lapok - Aziz Satar. I thought Amir would really be happy. I told him and he was very excited. He rushed to meet Pak Aziz and with his dad, he took a photo with Pak Aziz Satar. He was really happy and glad. He wanted to upload on his facebook!<br />
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I was thinking.. what was so special? Of course, he was one of THE Bujang Lapok but he is no more famous. But the fact that he is the link to the past is what makes him so special. A past, left as memories - forgotten and unforgotten as we can be selective. A past to a man who was quite special... P. Ramlee. And I guess, anything that is not accessible is invaluable! And I believe for Aziz Satar, his experience working with P.Ramlee creates a legacy of its own.<br />
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I heard that P. Ramlee was a kind man. I also heard that he used to give a portion of his money to charity when at that time, they were paid little. May Allah accepts his good deeds and kind heart to kindly forgives him for whatever evil all these film business had caused him.<br />
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<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"></div>Unknownnoreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1993225177437817607.post-6988097145503768782010-11-25T09:24:00.000-08:002010-11-25T09:32:32.544-08:00My new toy<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhHcxPV0zxBqORQKrwKtJ8pOasJjxnLnu9wIaAV0gusV0UpEB2J4M3bC4htQkqp7POhyhDLjX89oMlc022Es0H5L3TbHe0eWaxf8sk1bBfV_1SYekSSI02ZJcnUlfWA2SEeVggPWPISons/s1600/mata.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhHcxPV0zxBqORQKrwKtJ8pOasJjxnLnu9wIaAV0gusV0UpEB2J4M3bC4htQkqp7POhyhDLjX89oMlc022Es0H5L3TbHe0eWaxf8sk1bBfV_1SYekSSI02ZJcnUlfWA2SEeVggPWPISons/s1600/mata.jpg" /></a></div>I've always love to be ahead of technology...well, not really. I mean, I love to be ahead of this gadget thing. Today, I received my second macbook and this time is a macbook pro. I was thinking.. you can never catchup with these laptops. When you buy a very expensive laptop, in a few years, it will be cheap and there's no more thrill having it. So when will you achieve your satisfaction? The answer is "never". I know it but it still doesn't bother me to get this new machine. When I was about to buy a new laptop (when I lost my laptop in the lab during my PhD years), my supervisor, Ian said "get a mac and you'll never switch back". I do believe there is some truth in it...because although mac is hardly used in my university and it is a bit difficult to work back and forth from one machine to another when everyone uses microsoft, I still find mac irresistible due to its beautiful interface and slick keyboard. It is true when someone says "mac is like a mercedes" to me and I smiled, feeling satisfied! So tonight I am typing on my new machine and happy, feeling like a little girl getting her new toy! It is funny when you realize that the girl in you will always be there and it feels good to have that little girl in there - Makes you feel young and lively, isn't it. For the next few days/months,<br />
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I hope to enjoy this new toy and discover a whole new horizon, insya'Allah. Remember when you were young..how long can your new toy last? I remember my dolls ... they usually end up under the bed or hidden somewhere forgotten... But well, I hope this one will last very very long... and I can see some eyes are already watching closely.....Unknownnoreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1993225177437817607.post-66361530855995454432010-11-05T09:14:00.000-07:002010-11-06T04:35:33.486-07:00My Trip to MedanMy mother has a sister in Medan. I was browsing the internet and suddently had a idea..why don't I take my mom to visit her sister. It is my intention to make her happy and to please her always. For children to please a mom is an easy task. More often that not, we are too busy to please them although a phone call is easy to make and would make them very happy. Everytime when we call her, she will tell others about it. My mom - she will never ask for anything. Whenever I go any where and ask her what she wants, she will say.. "nothing. I only want you to be safe". May Allah bless my mom for being so kind to us. So that is why I decided to take her and my sister to see my aunt in Medan.<br />
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It was a good flight. My regret was only that I did not request for a wheel chair for mom. She said it is alright for her to walk and not to worry. I forgot that my mom will never ask.. she would say ok until it is too much to take. When we reach there, my aunt was already waiting. We stayed at her place as a gesture of respect and of course, it would mean saving lots of money and perhaps spending the money saved on shopping ;-)<br />
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Medan is not like Bandung. It is not heaven for shoppers. There was not many choices and there were too many walking-the-street sellers selling all sorts of goodies to you. It was rather annoying but I guess, the style was everywhere in Indonesia. You just have to make the most of it and look at the bright side. Which bright side? I don't have the answer!<br />
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It is good to take Amir to Medan. The time when we were about to go to the airport for our departure, we saw chidren, ages 5-12 begged on the street. They knocked car windows and ask for money. We watched from afar as they did not come to our window. THey tried their luck while the traffic lights were still on red. Amir watched. I hope he realised that not many children are as lucky as he is. I know he had seen it on TV but never on real life. It should be an eye opening event for him.<br />
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I guess Amir experienced lot so things.. things he take for granted are actually not available for many people there. You can see that people are striving for their living. In the area that we stayed - many houses are converted into a shop. They will do just about anything - according to their specialization, of course! When we reach there, Amir's first question was "Is there any cyber cafes?" I thought the answer would probably be "NO" but to my surprise, there are!!! Of course, my aunt and auntie do not know about these cyber cafes but Amir roamed around. He found so many cyber cafes around the vicinity. In fact, the nearest was only about 300meters away. So Amir killed his luxurious time at the nearby cyber cafes playing his games. And it was very cheap... only around 3000 rupiahs about RM1 per hour. <br />
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Well.. i did not let him spend too much time playing games. Most of the time, he'll be at home with us including spending his time, talking to my uncle. My uncle is a real scientist. He is an old man in his late 60s or early 70s. I forgot to ask about his age. There was a picture of him when he was still a baby in his dad's arm. He has the Pangeran Deponegoro's blood (the ??th generation) - the Javanese warrior who fights against the Dutch. He told us his stories... how he went to school and the parents spoke dutch at home but was never taught dutch. So when he was young, he can understand but cannot speak the language. Now, he forgot the language because not many indonesians speaks dutch anymore. He told us the difference between the dutch and the british colonies. How they ruled the country and how they treated the people. The dutches took almost everything and left them with nothing. Not even knowledge! They make the people feel like they can't do anything and that they should rely on other people. I believe many successful Indonesians are those who realise the trick and believe that they should improve. I believe my uncle is one of them. He is a famacist and is very knowledgable about chemicals and herbal medicine. I envy him for his knowledge and admire his passion for reading. Amazing man! Amir was impressed too!<br />
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Nowadays, although the country is rather poor in general, but the people are working very hard. They are very creative. If you go to their shops, you can see all sorts of fashion, for children or adults. I was really amazed of the designs that they come out with. Very fashionable and stylish and they have them matched in terms of color and fabric from head to toe. Yes.. they are quite fashionable people. But of course, the taste of fashion is a bit different in Malaysia. But in general, I believe they are very creative people. <br />
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I guess the best part for everyone was Danau Toba. The lake is huge. You can't see the other side of the lake - 100 by 30kms. It was created when there was a supervolcanic eruption which happens around 70,000 years ago. That is what people say. In the middle of it, is Samosir island. We rode the public ferry because it was cheaper but I regreted because as for other public transportations in Indonesia, you cannot expect much from them. I just can't stand the dangdut music that was too loud. Other passengers were enjoying it I guess! They didn't look like they suffer much like I was! Yes, dangdut can kill me ;-(<br />
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To me, the best part of the trip was the food. We were usually served with food cooked by my cousin. She is a lawyer and has a firm there. She practised law with her husband. THey are doing very well, in fact! Before going to work, she will cook for us. Oh.. I love the food. She can cook the Minang style or the Batak style. I don't ask much when I love the food because I will keep myself busy with eating and enjoying the provision Allah keep for me. If I don't like the food, I will eat less and talk more ;-) <br />
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The night of the departure, they sent us to the airport. The airport was small and they can't go in and we had to say goodbye at the door. We hugged each other and was really satisfied with the hospitality that was given to us. Not many people would allow others to interupt their lives for 5 days and constantly entertaining us. We hugged each other and say good bye. Although I did not buy much and had limited time shopping (which I wish I was given more time or the shopping malls are bigger), I was happy as I believe I have made my mom happy. Isn't that what this trip is all about? And I saw my mom was smiling while walking to the plane! Gosh! I wish I had requested the wheel chair this time!!Unknownnoreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1993225177437817607.post-15411056313805129962010-10-11T03:16:00.000-07:002010-10-12T07:22:12.063-07:00ANGRY ANYONE? JOIN THE CLUB!!I am very angry at the moment. Someone had just gone overboard. Some people can be very insensitive with other people's feeling that they only think of themselves. It is easy to live your live with yourself only without having to worry about anything else in the world. Go ahead.. live with ownself, your hobby.. your favourite stuff.. your preferred style.. see if anyone cares. But is it the a good way of life? Shouldn't we call it IRRESPONSIBLE!!! If only I can shout very loudly onto the person's ears so that the person will wake up to realise that there are others who's life was effected by the actions. <br />
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It is easy to get angry but to calm down, takes a long time.. sometimes almost FOREVER. But the prophet says that a strong man is not those who wrestle well, but those who can prevent themselves from getting angry. So I concluded that I am not that strong. However, I think I will swallow my anger for the time being. See how things improve!!!!<br />
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May Allah give me strength.. AMEENUnknownnoreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1993225177437817607.post-1073483674660579272010-09-06T17:54:00.000-07:002010-09-06T18:39:21.179-07:00Giving CharityI am feeling rather sad as Ramadhan is leaving. Perhaps many of us feel secure that Ramadhan will come again next year but will it, in our lifetime? As we can't predict or should I ask if the advance technology can ever predict the time when our soul leaves the body? I don't think so. Anyway, it is good to do good deeds while you are still alive and one of them is giving charity - which shouldn't wait. Some people wait until they die and put in their will that some of the wealth goes to charity. That is ok too but it is better to do it now and then.<br />
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Giving charity is quite complicated. At times, you are tested and do not know whether to give or not to give. For example, while you are eating at a comfortable restaurant, someone came to you and ask for money. He looked perfectly well. Should you give or should you not? You might want to keep your integrity by giving some money and the only change in your pocket is RM50 and a 50cent coin. What should you do?<br />
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Yes.. when Allah tell us to give charity, He said, "[9:60] Charities(Sadaqaat) shall go to the poor, the needy, the workers who collect them, the new converts, to free the slaves, to those burdened by sudden expenses, in the cause of Allah, and to the traveling alien. Such is GOD's commandment. GOD is Omniscient, Most Wise". He did not mentioned the situations and how much should you give. But then, He sent his messenger as to guide us to do good. Our belover prophet, Muhammad (pbuh) never turn down any appeal for help. He would help and give charity without worrying having less. Can we not do the same?<br />
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Recently I heard a nice talk by Aagym, who gave this scenario. You are at a traffic light. A man came to you and ask for money. You adviced him, "Why don't you work and take care of your own living". The man grumbled and said that if you do not want to give, just keep your mouth shut. Then he went to the other car and ask for money. The man gave him some money. When the beggar left, you asked the man, "Why did you give him money". He said, "I heard that the prophet never turn down anyone's request, that is why I gave". Then you said proudly, "I give charity, in a form of advice". The man smiled and said, "Good but is it not better for you to give him some money first, and then give an advice". That way, he'll listen! <br />
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So the moral of the story is not to turn down any request of those who needs your help if you want to follow the sunnah. <br />
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Abdullah bin Mas’ud reported that the prophet S.A.S said, “There are three kinds of people who are loved by Allah, a man who gets up at night to read the Quran, a man who gives alms with his right hand so secretly that he conceals it from his left hand , and a man in a battalion who encounters an enemy when his companions are routed.”(the one who fights in the cause of Allah and shows courage and steadfastness)<br />
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Abu Hurayrah reported that the prophet S.A.S said, ” Charity is incumbent upon every human limb everyday. Bringing peace between two contending people is charity, helping a person to mount a camel or loading his baggage for him is charity, every step taken towards a mosque is charity, and removing anything from a roadway that causes an inconvenience is also charity.”<br />
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So what's the verdict. Should you give that RM50 or the 50cent? If you want it to come back in manifolds, which one would give you more? See, our Math can be deceiving!<br />
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Allah knows best.Unknownnoreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1993225177437817607.post-16541223277636612262010-09-03T09:13:00.000-07:002012-09-19T08:07:38.407-07:00O Allah.. I am submitting willingly<a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgtad5WCFDCgvDCv4kihX68b0oTEEwij48k_6qRgDSnuU36zg0Qc835h6OOF81KSwATuCDO18O4fjLEKh8maafVNSkJdUu8X3aH4ZPamIpAUrZGwW-mNXLn86d3SABn4V8-sgeuvTJNMso/s1600/images.jpg"><img alt="" border="0" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5512723529227515522" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgtad5WCFDCgvDCv4kihX68b0oTEEwij48k_6qRgDSnuU36zg0Qc835h6OOF81KSwATuCDO18O4fjLEKh8maafVNSkJdUu8X3aH4ZPamIpAUrZGwW-mNXLn86d3SABn4V8-sgeuvTJNMso/s320/images.jpg" style="cursor: hand; cursor: pointer; float: right; height: 195px; margin: 0 0 10px 10px; width: 259px;" /></a><br />
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<span style="color: #262626; font-family: ArialMT; font-size: 13.0pt;">The noise of this busy life urges me to escape,<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="color: #262626; font-family: ArialMT; font-size: 13.0pt;">Searching for a place where my mind can be heard,<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="color: #262626; font-family: ArialMT; font-size: 13.0pt;">Where silence is a pearl kept hidden in its shell,<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="color: #262626; font-family: ArialMT; font-size: 13.0pt;">My path to that seclusion is a wondrous journey, I can tell.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="color: #262626; font-family: ArialMT; font-size: 13.0pt;">Where can I find a serene place as a get-away,<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="color: #262626; font-family: ArialMT; font-size: 13.0pt;">When movements are stillness moving through time all day,<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="color: #262626; font-family: ArialMT; font-size: 13.0pt;">Crying aloud to You and begging You as I may,<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="color: #262626; font-family: ArialMT; font-size: 13.0pt;">That is my intention You know well without say,<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="color: #262626; font-family: ArialMT; font-size: 13.0pt;">For You are The Most High, created men from clay.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="color: #262626; font-family: ArialMT; font-size: 13.0pt;">But all I could do is work – one task after another,<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="color: #262626; font-family: ArialMT; font-size: 13.0pt;">Not having time to pause and reflect but to continue no matter,<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="color: #262626; font-family: ArialMT; font-size: 13.0pt;">I ask myself if this is what my life is, forever and ever?<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="color: #262626; font-family: ArialMT; font-size: 13.0pt;">O Allah, You test us with things to see if we persevere<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="color: #262626; font-family: ArialMT; font-size: 13.0pt;">Don't be sad, You said and do not fear,<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="color: #262626; font-family: ArialMT; font-size: 13.0pt;">We live with Your Mercy and kindness but Your wrath we most fear,<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="color: #262626; font-family: ArialMT; font-size: 13.0pt;">Please take us away from Your anger and we'll repent over and over,<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="color: #262626; font-family: ArialMT; font-size: 13.0pt;">For today we promise to be good but our desire can always steer.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="color: #262626; font-family: ArialMT; font-size: 13.0pt;">O Allah, they said life is nothing but negligence - is a sure thing,<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="color: #262626; font-family: ArialMT; font-size: 13.0pt;">Tell me what is unreal and what is attainable - seems confusing,<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="color: #262626; font-family: ArialMT; font-size: 13.0pt;">For I do not know where my road is actually heading,<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="color: #262626; font-family: ArialMT; font-size: 13.0pt;">"And all things in the heavens and the earth, willingly and unwillingly prostrating to Him (in obedience)" Quran,13:15.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
<!--EndFragment-->Unknownnoreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1993225177437817607.post-21167231841785594922010-08-30T16:39:00.000-07:002010-08-30T23:00:11.875-07:00An Unforgettable Independence Day...<a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiszxTx45bak8dywtn6vYxBPoxDYMOAMVLkEgVjgpRulTeS1eBOpVAXhwLhXwMrv5v27atXQjLis2BRBnkjluk7rnhMTu4xo2nBA3yslFEkuyy0uEKlLlpuEid1x4HNyUbt6SlpYxowRDk/s1600/theif.bmp"><img style="float:left; margin:0 10px 10px 0;cursor:pointer; cursor:hand;width: 237px; height: 156px;" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiszxTx45bak8dywtn6vYxBPoxDYMOAMVLkEgVjgpRulTeS1eBOpVAXhwLhXwMrv5v27atXQjLis2BRBnkjluk7rnhMTu4xo2nBA3yslFEkuyy0uEKlLlpuEid1x4HNyUbt6SlpYxowRDk/s320/theif.bmp" border="0" alt=""id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5511357213082051154" /></a><br /><br />There's nothing much to this Independence Day.. not that it is not that important but something of a greater magnitude is here, the Ramadhan month. Indeed, as it has been highlighted, Ramadhan is the best thing that can happen to us and having the Lailatul Qadar is even greater. As Ramadhan is a month where you busy yourself with your worship to God, some of the common activities are a bit neglected. So who cares if your house is abit messy, who cares if you can't prepare a great meal, who cares if you don't have time to prepare for the Eid - nobody cares. The most important is to optimise our time to do what all muslims should busy themselves with - the worshipping acts. "O Allah, have I done my best? What more should I do now? Please guide me, O my Lord.... help me to get Your blessings and mercy and to attain your forgiveness before Ramadhan went away. O Lord, Please give me more time.. " I repeatedly plead to Allah.<br /><br />Every night usually we sleep quite late. Last night I was listening to a very inspiring talk by someone from Muamalat Bank who was talking about the miracle of charity. Then I dozed off.... and at around 4am, I woke up with a group of men including the police at my bedroom door. I thought they were thieves - but looking at the policeman, I believe there must be something wrong. We were dumbstruck when we discovered that our house was broken into.. we all went down and talk to the policemen and the neighbourhood security guys - Alhamdulillah...nothing was stolen as our next door neighbour came back just on time and saw a man getting out of my house. It was a trial to see if they can get in and indeed they got in after getting a key from the table near the sliding door. But they did not have enough time to do anything.<br /><br />Subhanallah.. Allah is great! He protected us as He promised that if we sleep after reciting His holy verses, He will send His angles to guard the house - and indeed, we were protected. I had my handbag downstairs but nothing was taken. Praise be to Allah, Lord of the worlds.<br /><br />Abu al-‘Abbas ‘Abdullah bin ‘Abbas, radiyallahu anhuma, reported: One day I was behind the Prophet, sallallahu ‘alayhi wasallam, and he said to me:<br /><br />He said, ""O young man, I shall teach you some words [of advice] : Be mindful of Allah, and Allah will protect you. Be mindful of Allah, and you will find Him in front of you. If you (have need to) ask, ask of Allah; and if you seek help, seek help from Allah. Know that even if the Nation (or the whole community) were to gather together to benefit you with something, they would not benefit you with anything except that which Allah has already recorded for you, and that if they gather together to harm you with something, they would not be able to harm you with anything except that which Allah has already recorded against you. The pens have been lifted and the pages have dried."<br /><br /><br />So on this Independence Day - 31 August 2010, I feel the highes of greatfulness to my Lord.. repeatedly I say and mean it in my heart..."O Allah, praise be to You... Praise be to You for having the independence and feeling of security and having provision under Your great protection." Allahu Akbar!!Unknownnoreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1993225177437817607.post-79295221156620892552010-08-23T07:57:00.000-07:002010-08-25T23:55:23.956-07:00A Quick Getaway....<a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjlxecJjbw_JQNc856q6ivx-X-m0x7z-aKGji-4DfoGk6FNly4aQL5P891oM0paqi16gqqocOEEHItNJLKwPZuYWB2CHzkoXG7Sn29nlvcwD0SGJfww-54qlIeNPh-e1awwXu5u3EXz7O8/s1600/44436_153169181366635_123096424373911_502192_542181_n.jpg"><img style="float:right; margin:0 0 10px 10px;cursor:pointer; cursor:hand;width: 320px; height: 214px;" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjlxecJjbw_JQNc856q6ivx-X-m0x7z-aKGji-4DfoGk6FNly4aQL5P891oM0paqi16gqqocOEEHItNJLKwPZuYWB2CHzkoXG7Sn29nlvcwD0SGJfww-54qlIeNPh-e1awwXu5u3EXz7O8/s320/44436_153169181366635_123096424373911_502192_542181_n.jpg" border="0" alt=""id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5509605420719172370" /></a><br />My Swansea Sheikh reminded us of our flight.. that we are now on a journey - we are on a plane taking off and perhaps now we are among the clouds - travelling to a final destination. How long and short the journey is... Allah knows best.<br /><br />Not many have the chance to travel and being able to get away from all the hassle and bustle of life is a great blessing. However, it is not so good to do it during Ramadhan, but at time, you can't help it especially when you unintentionally booked. Well, everything happens for good reasons.<br /><br />I had the chance to go to Bandung.. a very nice old town in Indonesia. I don't know what to expect.. I believe good and bad are everywhere - "Ebony and Ivory", the good old song of the 80’s, remember? How long ago was that - I don't know and who's counting the years? I love Bandung for its old sturdy trees - they look serene and very welcoming, Masya'Allah.<br /><br />Tourism is highly recommended by Islam. Allah asked us to travel through the earth to take lessons from the other people that came before us. People travel to gain knowledge, learn about history of others and there are too many things that can be learnt from your travel and I have learnt a lot from this one. Oh.. how different people are and how Great Allah is for creating us and posting us to many different parts of the planet earth, experiencing different ways of life. Although we might look the same (being Asian), indeed we are different in many ways. Being there (Bandung & Jakarta) during the fasting month is an experience. Let me just write some lessons learnt and points to ponder upon and this mere sharing of knowledge and experience is a crucial thing in life.<br /><br />(1) We have to be very grateful to Allah for his bounties and blessings.. how easy our lives are. When you look at how people have to struggle to get food on the table everyday..you just can't stop uttering "Alhamdulillah". You can see their struggle by looking at their faces and the various ways they get their pocket filled - they'll do just about anything.. like singing on the bus, helping drivers to park or turn, beg - one of the ways to beg is by just jumping on any stopped vehicle and beg people for money. The country is huge but perhaps, the corruption problem is also huge. Allah has promised victory for those who follow the religion well, and no religion teaches their followers to do bad – and indeed, Islam comes to perfect our conducts and if you deviate from Islam, you will indeed suffer. I hope those who are living comfortably over there are able to share part of their wealth with the needy. Being poor is one thing but being in poverty is another..and I saw serious poverty problem there!<br /><br />(2) Be kind to travelers. The family that we stayed with - they are very good people. The husband built his own family business because he doesn't want to be involved with corruption. He is among the few who fear Allah, If only the rest of them realize..... or are they not strong enough to fight with their own nafs?? The family’s hospitability was incredible.. food was prepared for iftar and sahur right on the dot… I was not allowed to help. May Allah reward them with lots of Kindness and Mercy. Luckily I was there for only 3 days.. I really do not want to exhaust my host especially in the month of fasting when one has to increase his/her ibadah (like Quran reading, supplementary prayers etc.).<br /><br />(3) Plan your shopping well... organize your money well. I did not! I put my money everywhere.. at last, I found unused Rpssss in another wallet when I am already home. Ahhhh! I sighed aloud! But then, I thought - perhaps Allah wanted to tell me that I had enough already. And not to spend too much on things I don't need. I might say they are my needs but Allah knows best and yes, indeed He knows! And I know it too that those are not what I need but what I desire ;-). In fact, when I was doing my chores, it struck my mind how lucky for those who live simple lives – with less clothes to manage, small area to clean and just a few worries in their head. Some of us have 3-story house to clean, 10 wardrobes of clothing to manage and a lot of wealth to worry about. Pity them!!! Well, I know they must have many servants ;-) Managing servants can be a headache too ;-0<br /><br />(4) When you are there, you'll be tested with beggars - never chase them away or curse them cause Allah sent them to enable you to do good deeds and test you. You need to trust that Allah rewards in multi-folds when you give charity. If you don’t want to give them due to some reasons (perhaps security), go to a mosque and give your charity there instead to compensate – never miss the opportunity to give charity. You will see beggars from all walks of life.. old and young, healthy and unhealthy, able and disable… you name it. Well, we have beggars here too. May Allah help us to be more charitable and help them to find ways to help themselves too. Ameen.<br /><br />(5) In all situation, when you travel.. keep yourself in good mood. If anything bad happen, have patience. Sometimes, impatience can kill.. kill your mood, I mean! So keep a positive mind and teach yourself to be more tolerant with difficulties. It is not easy to travel on foreign land.. with foreign money, eating foreign food, speaking foreign language.. but Allah creates people in different races/tribes so that you will get to know each other, right? So never look down on others.. .. only Allah knows who is better among us.<br /><br />(6) Be careful.. keep your things safe. Don’t show others what you have or you might be in trouble – especially the highly valued items. You don’t know the place – so, it is better to play it safe. If you have an expensive camera, leave it. Just take an ordinary camera with you.<br /><br />(7) Most importantly, watch your prayers and keep dua that you will be safe till you reach home. Prayers are the only thing that keeps you in touch with your Lord – you would love to have your celcom line to be available wherever you go.. so keep your line with Allah clear too! Don’t keep yourself busy with Dunia only.. (well,don’t think of it as a Dunia activity.. while you do shopping, you can buy presents for your family and friends) life should be a balance scale..remember? Also take your Quran with you.. if you can carry 2 or 3 loads of goodies, CAN you NOT carry a Quran… your life manual? Don’t leave home without it!!!<br /><br />Let us all implore Allah to earnestly guide us all to the best and to reward us for whatever good deeds we do for His sake. Allah Almighty says: (Say (O Muhammad): Travel in the land and see how He originated creation, then Allah bringeth forth the later growth. Lo! Allah is Able to do all things)(Al-`Ankabut 29:20).<br /><br />When we walk on planet earth now, we should be thinking of all the blessings that He bestowed upon us.. where are we heading and what we really need in life. We are travellers in a true sense - stopping for a while to collect some good things to carry along.. these good things that we have collected - how are we presenting them to Allah - with pride? If not, we better start being selective.. taking only the best with us.. as the plane cannot carry all the garbage you have - like I said, only the good ones. So when the pilot announce that we will be arriving soon, we all want to smile and say.. Yes, Allah - we are ready and eager to meet You!!! If only we ponder more and reflect. Wallahu'Alam. Allah knows best!Unknownnoreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1993225177437817607.post-31763745851157299732010-08-08T07:35:00.000-07:002010-08-08T08:43:53.654-07:00IT WAS ONLY A GAME<a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiFATi2O72-U2KLiTUg646IMNvmhCcyEq2d-V_ulIu93UJQQEPEy6MJoMhdrts8HZCuo2KhOOHHOqDMXUY_cl-D6VB7m6y4OQT3pqH8MlHlOrRomfRzHujvXAQx2uafsGnHAYR8096GLBU/s1600/art-rickerby-child-bowling-at-a-local-bowling-alley.jpg"><img style="float:right; margin:0 0 10px 10px;cursor:pointer; cursor:hand;width: 120px; height: 160px;" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiFATi2O72-U2KLiTUg646IMNvmhCcyEq2d-V_ulIu93UJQQEPEy6MJoMhdrts8HZCuo2KhOOHHOqDMXUY_cl-D6VB7m6y4OQT3pqH8MlHlOrRomfRzHujvXAQx2uafsGnHAYR8096GLBU/s320/art-rickerby-child-bowling-at-a-local-bowling-alley.jpg" border="0" alt=""id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5503058090612542306" /></a><br /><br />My nieces and nephew came back this weekend and we decided to go for a bowling game again. Being very young, they don't score much. What a waste of money! Naaaah... althought the ball usually ends up in the gutter, they always enjoy bowling and it is a pleasure to make them happy. They are adorable. So we went - the 5 of us including 2 nieces who are still too young to play but they usually will roam around, climbing and busy themselves with all sorts of activities in the room.<br /><br />We were playing as usual and this time, they scored well. For the first throw, Adam scored 9 which was excellent for a boy his age, 8 yrs old. So we played and I can see everyone showing better performance than before. Suddenly this man (in his 50's i would guess) who was playing next to us with his friends told me to make sure that the children do not distract them - they are having a match. I looked at the man and smile. I can't say anything but feeling sorry for him. His words were not good - the way he said it did not show any compassion towards children. At his age, I expect something better than that. Well, I know we made a mistake but we are talking about kids here, come on!<br /><br />How many of us have this passion for children. We need to love them.. teach them things they don't know. If we teach them well, they'll grow up to be fine men and women. They are our hopes - our future. Even the prophet would let his grandson climb his back and horse him around. How passionate he was with children. He always show his affection towards children. He would kiss them, comb their hair with his fingcers, play with them and most of all, he enjoyed having them around. If we don't have love for them, who will they turn to for love? Once you establish the love and affection, it is easy to teach them out of trust and respect. <br /><br />The man reported us to the manager and we were asked to change lane with someone else, with our perminssion of course. We don't mind - had to play a whole new game again. The children followed my instruction and I told them to have patience. My niece was furious because her score was better before. This time around, we played with less spirit. The balls ended in the gutter more often than before. It is not fair to deprive the children from their rights of having fun. They continue playing for the sake of filling the empty slots with some scores - mostly 0. I believe those mature man who were having their match were acting selfish. We looked at them with dissatisfaction.. I watched them play from afar. Before throwing the ball, some would look further down the lane at the pins as if they were going to swallow them. I saw all sorts of style and the throws were quite powerful compared to ours - my niece's ball would go straight at first but as it approaches the pins, it loses its momentum and....(I don't think I have to finish my sentence). They were serious. For myself, I it doesn't really matter. If the ball ends up in the gutter, I don't have to worry. I don't mind and my team won't mind either. We were there to have fun. To us, it was only a game.<br /><br />I was just wondering, "If people can be so serious in a game, can they not be serious in seeking Allah's pleasure?"<br /><br />Allaah says: <br /> “And turn in repentance and in obedience with true Faith (Islamic Monotheism) to your Lord and submit to Him (in Islam), before the torment comes upon you, then you will not be helped. And follow the best of that which is sent downto you from your Lord (i.e. this Qur’an, do what it orders you to do and keep away from what it forbids), before the torment comes on you suddenly while you perceive not.” (Az-Zumar 39:54-55).Unknownnoreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1993225177437817607.post-61587520367719414552010-08-06T07:36:00.000-07:002010-08-08T07:34:28.823-07:00SOMETHING GREAT IS COMING THIS WAY ;-)<a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjE6tjY674PTlpgX4UNkWmGd1e_-rbbNScJ5rNlGWaA4BWOU77U4Tcc7rEgVRxlK_XDz8hi9hXAEbd4TjXC-R-hdcGFkTF_w2iS4SAUDTuWSly4b-OuFOlmEtnTwkM2Rqw4S2ORCd4_i8Q/s1600/Ramadhan_by_mustange.jpg"><img style="float:left; margin:0 10px 10px 0;cursor:pointer; cursor:hand;width: 320px; height: 240px;" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjE6tjY674PTlpgX4UNkWmGd1e_-rbbNScJ5rNlGWaA4BWOU77U4Tcc7rEgVRxlK_XDz8hi9hXAEbd4TjXC-R-hdcGFkTF_w2iS4SAUDTuWSly4b-OuFOlmEtnTwkM2Rqw4S2ORCd4_i8Q/s320/Ramadhan_by_mustange.jpg" border="0" alt=""id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5502417337459027410" /></a><br /><br /><br />I wanted to continue with my series of lecture on THE GLORY OF ISLAM - ISLAM IS REVIVING when they asked me to talk about RAMADHAN instead. So last night I looked through the books, browsing the internet to get legitimate facts from reliable references so that I won't be blamed for incorrect teaching. Early this morning, I felt energetic when I was delivering although I was feeling quite anxious before that. I felt like I wanted to talk about everything that had been researched but alas, time was so short. I can only brief them about the preparations of the great month of Ramadhan.<br /><br /><br />It is really true that when you deliver your messages, you are the one who benefit the most. I feel different today.. so scared that I cannot do what i had preached. Good eh? This is why we have to talk about Islam all the time.. to revive the spirit in our hearts so that our iman will not decrease. I learn from my Hadith class that truly Iman can decrease with the decrease of AMAL, your acts of worship. How good it is to feel that we are close to God. I hope in the month of Ramadhan, I can feel closer to Him. Oh..how I long for Ramadhan but at the same time, I am not sure whether or not I am ready for it. I don't want Ramadhan to go without Allah forgiving me. Please Allah.. do help me!!! <br /><br />The analogy of the coming and going of Ramadhan is like going to Mecca - the holy land where one is so fortunate to be able to get multi-folds of rewards for any good deeds. So when you are in Mecca, you do lots of acts of worship because you know this is the holy land and you have to maximize or optimize your time. Such a lovely place where you concentrate only in your worship, very little concern of the dunia, Masya'Allah. I remember when I was in the bus leaving the holy land.. my eyes cannot stop looking at the direction of Kaaba while my heart was crying - longing and longing to be there again. It is like departing with your lover and not knowing when you will see each other again.. Subhanallah, such a blessed land that took my heart away. I remember once I wrote an article.. "I left my heart in San Francisco"... sorry, no more San Francisco. My heart was there.. at the very holy land. You just can't describe how beautiful it is to be there. The first time I laid my eyes on the Kaaba, I was.... there is no word to describe. It was so different. It was not like those great glamorous building that people build to impress others - not at all. It was just a normal square thing.. but masya'Allah, when you look at it, all your emotions come together.. you feel the longing, the love, the pleasure, the mercy, the compassion.. aah!!! There is no one word but only SUBHANALLAH - praise be to Allah, lord of the worlds.<br /><br />Ramadhan is like that.. to be in Ramadhan is fortunate. There is no counting how much reward Allah is preparing for us.. but are we prepared? Are we ready to collect the points? We all want to be victorious when Ramadhan leaves us.. ya, it is not us leaving Ramadhan..but Ramadhan will come and leaves us. But don't let it go without getting mercy, forgiveness and release from the hellfire. Indeed, if we want to be victorious.. we need to be serious about it like increasing our voluntary prayers, charity and protecting ourself from doing maksiat (bad deeds). Evil or bad deeds darken the hearts. How unfortunate if our hearts are dark.. na'uzubillah. O Allah, please help us to purify ourselves..to strengthen our hearts in piety. O Allah please help us to help ourselves. Help us to help others too.<br /><br />One interesting thing that I had experience recently was meeting with my new Sheikh. I have a new Sheikh now.. I feel happy that Allah is sending someone to us. O Allah, You are great and I am so grateful to you. We met at a nearby mosque, he gave a talk on IKHLAS. I wanted to meet him and I waited until only selected few remained. We gathered around him and everyone took their turns to take pictures and to hug him. Of course, I had to keep my distance as they were all men there. But I stayed with them. Then when I had the chance, I introduce myself.. he called me DR. Such a polite and well-mannered man. He reminds me of Sheikh Abdullah Yassin.. the way he speaks - very proper and careful, Subhanallah. <br /><br />Then I was thinking.. it is not easy to be them.. the knowledgeable people, especially when you are really well-known and having lots of fan. I make doa that he will not change.. May Allah keep him on His straight path... let him deliver his knowledge with humbleness like he always does, let him be merciful too - aproachable and respectable. O Allah, these are the people who can help us.. to guide us, to set an example for us..please O Allah. We need them.. and please ease our path in seeking the knowledge of the religion. Help us to increase our piety and forgive us for what we know not.<br /><br />Talking about having fans. I read about Saidina Ali r.a. who would say this when he was praised "O Allah, please forgive me for what they know not, please make me better than what they said about me, and please don't blame me for their thoughts on me". This doa is beautiful and I believe those people who are knowledgeble, they are wise people too. They are only seeking Allah's mercy and compassion. So praises don't leave marks in their hearts. May Allah help them in their effort to revive Islam, ameen.<br /><br />Rasulullah said, <em>"O Muslims! Fear Allah and obey Him. I give you glad tidings as the month of Ramadhan is approaching. This is the month in which the Qur’aan was revealed as a guidance for mankind, as well as a clarification and differentiation between truth and falsehood".</em> <br /><br />And as Ramadhan is approaching, I am feeling hopeful - as if I am going to Macca when I think of the bounties. I will be there, insya'Allah and the reward is tremendous.. and I am smiling because something great is coming this way...... Subhanallah, YOU ARE GREAT!!!Unknownnoreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1993225177437817607.post-1451687346262818612010-07-24T15:30:00.000-07:002010-07-24T16:47:16.474-07:00Missing you, Princess....I kissed you and let you go. This time was not like before. I was sad because you came back for only 3 weeks - shorter than planned. I waved at you and there you were, rushing through the crowds to get to your boarding gate. My mind crawled back to 20 some years and realised how fast time moves - my chidren, they are leading their own lives. Now you are already almost in your final year, getting ready for your career. <br /><br />This time I feel like it was a dream, having you at home. 3 weeks was very short - so many things were left unsaid and no time to do what we have planned before. Allah knows best. But we managed to do our family portrait, although without your sister. It was alright. <br /><br />People do change through time. You do too. I can see that you are stronger and louder in your words and actions. You are full of determination and very confident. I love you, my princess and my prayers are with you always. I pray that your journey is well. I know you'll feel the same when you reach Leeds - When you wake up tomorrow, you will feel like it was all a dream. Nice dream eh? I know I will take some time to readjust myself to not having you home. After a few days, I'l be alright and you will be back to your daily schedule. Insya'Allah, we'll meet again. Perhaps we'll meet again when it snows ;-)<br /><br />All the best, my princess... be strong like you always do!Unknownnoreply@blogger.com0