Sunday 1 May 2011

They changed their plans.....

Life is a rolling wheel.. sometimes, you'll be on top and sometime you'll be at the bottom. What you do to others will come back to you... hmmm, most of the time! I guess everyone knows this. That is why when I told my son his misbehavior towards me, he said I must have done the same to my mom. Hmm.. Amir can be a tricky boy!

It is not easy to deal with children when they are already married... i think all moms would think the same. I wonder how my mom deals with this matter with all 9 of her children married... must be challenging.

This afternoon, I got a message from my daughter telling me that she'll be coming home. When your married daughter is coming home with your son-in-law, you have to make preparations like you are having any guests. Before when my daughters came home from their boarding schools, they'll do the tiding up themselves, they'll do all the house chores. Oh, what a bless!!! When they are home, I was like having maids in the house... ( when they were not sleeping, that is !!! )

So when I know my daughter is coming home today, I prepared their bed and make sure everything is in perfect order.. so they feel very much welcomed. I changed the carpet so that the room will look nicer and they'll be real happy to be home and to come home again next time. After wiping the floor and dusting, I looked at the room... wow, it looked really nice! When Amir came in, he told me off - he said, she can do it by herself. I told him that they'll be tired by the time they arrive and it is good that I prepared this so that they can rest peacefully when they arrive. What does he know!!!

I looked at the room, I had everything ready and I sat down at my favorite couch waiting for them - any sounds of a car approaching might be them.... Suddenly I saw a message on my mobile, it says... Sorry ma, we changed our plans!!! Is it ok? Hmm.. what can I say? Well, at least, I can rest and I have a nice room upstairs ready for guests!

 I wonder all through my marriage life, my mom must have felt neglected. I remember how I was too busy with my husband, too busy with my family, too busy with my children. It is easy to hurt a mom's feelings. Unfortunately, you have to experience it to realize it...  Life is about lessons... and I am glad Allah helps me see through these lessons of life. With that note, I thank Allah for all His lessons to make me an improved daughter to my mom. I need to materialize my love to her. I hope she knows I love her so much... And if I promised her anything, I hope I would never have to say, "Sorry Ma, I changed my plans!!!