Tuesday 11 November 2008

Appreciation

Sometimes in life, you need someone to pat your back and say, "You did great!". But most of the time, people do not respond that way. Even when you think you have achieved the highest, they simply forgot or just don't bother. Does it really matter? Of course, we should say, no.. but deep in our hearts, we still need all those appreciation to be heard. We are just being human. Allah do not make life that straight forward. We are tested by people around us. Even those who seem kind, they don't really care or they just don't understand... my son would describe this situation as SAD. 

Even when some of us are back in my office, no one in the meeting take any initiative to just announce that yes.. she is back and we welcome her. No... I guess we malaysians are not that expressive. I remember when I was back in UK when I had my viva... passed my other international friends and they celebrated me with hugs and kisses along with the congratulation wishes. 

I believe being appreciative or even expressive is very important to relate with people nicely. It is good to be able to say something about anything around you... what's wrong being a bit more alert of what people wear or do or behave or anything at all. If you are a Head of Dept or a boss, remember to congratulate on good occasions or welcome people in meetings. It makes them feel appreciated and help build the team spirit. Isn't it good to be able to work where you feel belong? A 2 sec thing might give a long impact on those you lead. 

So remember to appreciate those around you and see if you can make a difference! 

Saturday 1 November 2008

DREAM.. BAD?


It is good to be back. I have not written for sometime now. I've just finished compiling my thesis and sent them for binding so that I would be able to mail them to my university. I am happy that I have sort them out... oh!!! It was a messy process - having to do many copies and printing color and non-color separately - at last, I abandoned the copies and print all 6 copies on one printer so that I'm sure I do not miss any pages. Only those who had gone through similar experience will understand what i mean.. it is not as easy as it seems.

Anyway, I want to talk about a different subject through what I have experienced recently.
I have learnt through experience that when  you have a bad dream, you should not tell anyone. I have not had bad dreams but recently, I had terrible dreams that made me so restless... I know I should say it but I want others to learn from my lesson... so I hope it is not considered bad dreams after all. Anyway, when I woke up from the dream, I was glad that it was only a dream and wonder why I had such dreams... it was 2 similar consecutive dream that made me sweat. I slept early that night. When I woke up, I found my son still awake. He was, as usual, on the internet, playing Gaia - I suppose. I did not say anything to him. 

Then, he said to me that I should not put the doll on the table in my room. (I bought many dolls in UK - intentionally for my nieces but as they are so adorable I did not have a heart to give them away. So I kept 2 dolls with me and that evening, I was going through my things when I found them. Admiring how beautiful they are, I put one of them on the table in my room. These dolls were porcelain dolls with beautiful gowns on them with laces and other accessories). My son continued by saying that the angles will not come into my room because of these dolls.  I looked at him and immediately I said to myself "O.. that's why!" He asked me what I meant by that but I said nothing. It dawned on me that my dreams must have something to do with the angles not coming to my room. It could be. 

Imagine when angles are deterred from entering your house... how terrible is that. So I figured.. it is not worth it.. why keep all these beautiful figures in your room that keep away the blessings from entering your life. It is so true that sometimes when you think something is good for you - it might not be. So we have to be wise.. the morale of the story??? It doesn't matter how beautiful things are.... if they don't bring anything good, keep away!! Have I learnt my lesson well? Yes, I don't want to end up having bad dreams anymore!

Then I wonder.. how about those people who keep statues in their houses??? How do they expect the angles to come into their houses? I guess to some people, it doesn't really matter ... but if you want to keep close to Allah, Allah will help you clear the way - wallahu 'alam.